I dont know if it is self sabotage but I believe people who perceives themselves as victims will often push buttons that get a reaction so they can either say; See, see they hurt me, or the person leaves them.

When a was a tutor I was talking to a woman who was telling me how hard it was to make friends. I said she was a lovely person or some such thing. She said; just wait you will hate me too. I never hated her but I came to dred her push-pull, like me dont like me behavior.