I will be 43 in May, married 7 years and I have a multitude of health issues. The reason I'm posting is I'm just disgusted with sex. Ugh... the thought of it makes me sick. I want nothing to do with it. Sometimes, maybe once a month, I might want to, but all the effort required just turns me off. That and the end result just isn't worth it to me anymore.

Probably think this is funny, but I find that I'm getting really disgusted with bodily fluids in general. Having to clean up afterwards and/or waiting for all of it to get out over the next day really irritates me. I don't know why something that stupid is starting to bother me. Maybe I'm getting old and cantankerous. Used to, I didn't care and these little things didn't irritate me, but now I just dread it for some reason.

And, of course, my husband always wants it when I feel the worst. I don't say anything though. I just tell him, go ahead, I don't feel good and then I let him do his business so I can go to sleep. If I don't, he'll go find it somewhere else, right? So I do what I have to do. I just wish I didn't feel like a bathroom afterwards.

It's gotten so that I'm wishing we had twin beds and could sleep separately. I don't even like him touching me in bed because it wakes me up, or I can't get to sleep and I just want to be left alone. I know I have some issues... I just hate the thought of going to the doctor and figuring out why. I know part of it is growing older and getting uglier and more disgusting to look at. I hate it. I hate that I feel like an 80 year old woman.

I wonder... is it a matter of time before he does because he wants his partner to be satisfied? If I never had sex again, I wouldn't care; however, I know it is important to some men that their partner enjoy themselves too. (I know I should know this of my husband, but he doesn't like to talk about stuff like this, and neither do I.) I do know that he understands that I suffer from depression, arthritis, joint degeneration and fibro myalgia. I know he gets why I don't want to, but I still worry that he's going to start getting it somewhere else.

Any suggestions how to get out of this funk? Is this something that just happens to some women? Could it be hormonal? Or emotional? I don't know if my husband is going to put up with me much longer. Men usually don't where a lack of interest in sex is evident. I saw A LOT of that years ago on dating sites when I was single. Married men looking for a fling cause their wife doesn't want to have sex anymore. Man, I used to shake my head at that, and ....now that's me.