Quote:
Originally Posted by sidestepper
I dont know if it is self sabotage but I believe people who perceives themselves as victims will often push buttons that get a reaction so they can either say; See, see they hurt me, or the person leaves them.
When a was a tutor I was talking to a woman who was telling me how hard it was to make friends. I said she was a lovely person or some such thing. She said; just wait you will hate me too. I never hated her but I came to dred her push-pull, like me dont like me behavior.
|
Hmm I'd say there are things I've been a victim of, but I don't go pushing buttons just so I can say 'look that person caused me pain(give me more attention!!!!!1111)' I think in my case I mostly avoid people or am nervous about them because i am afraid they might harrass or ridicule me since I got used to that growing up.
Also when someone faces constant rejection I think its understandable they might doubt their ability to befriend anyone so even if you say something nice they might have a hard time actually believing it or applying it to them self. Doesn't mean they are pushing people away just so they can say 'Im right, Im a victim.'