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Originally Posted by Curupira
My daughter has entered the terrible twos and I am doing my best just to keep up. When it gets really bad I am able to shut myself down and just focus on her but eventually I have to pay the piper. By the end of the day I am not only tired but also so disconnected from my own emotions that I cannot even tell what I am feeling or why.
If I look back at the day I can see that I have engaged in bad coping mechanisms (not eating, negative thinking) but I cannot connect that to a reason.
So my question is this. For you parents, how do you balance your illness with taking care of your children? What balance have you been able to achieve ? What compromises have you had to make?
I want to shelter her from my illness as much as humanly possible but I know that may not always be an option. I need to be healthy so she can be healthy. I just don't know how to get there.
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At this point, in my parent stage, there is no sheltering. Well, maybe in the words i use. Three kids, divorced, i have the kids all but 10-11 hours a week.. I'm their primary care giver. My depression, anxiety, Ms, is acknowledged. I'm the open honest one. Their dad isn't honest about his borderline, bi polar, alcoholism.
Sooo...my boys turn to me, to talk about the important things. They can't always get what they want, why should they?
I'm struggling, right now, with their brotherly squabbling, that gets physically out of hand. I'd rather be exhausted, than listen to their father bark at them, and instead of supportive teamwork, added stress...
why are you disconnected, from your feelings?
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