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Old Feb 27, 2014, 07:40 AM
em96 em96 is offline
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Hi everyone, I'm pretty new here and I'm really in need of some help.

This is going to sound absolutely ridiculous, but it's a really big problem. I can't deal with nudity, like at all. I know, it's stupid. It doesn't matter whether it's in real life, in a magazine or on the TV, I can't deal with it at all.

For example, if I'm watching a movie and there's even a tiny scrap of skin (like a girl in her underwear or a bikini) I just freak out. If there's a sex scene I can't handle it at all. I get so embarrassed, I start to sweat, I get fidgety, angry and jealous and have to leave the room. I usually end up in tears, and it annoys me so much because I have no idea where it stems from.

It's getting to the point where it's putting a strain on my relationship with my boyfriend. I want to point out that he's a great guy and I've been with him for almost two years now, we get on really well generally but this is a huge issue. It's not that I don't trust him, but it's getting that we can't even go to the movies for fear that there's going to be a sex scene and I'll freak out, we can't go to the beach because there's girls in their underwear, I can't even watch music videos if there's slight nudity in them. It pisses him off so much and we've fallen out loads of times because of it, and it's not worth losing him over something so stupid.

He was tolerant at the start, but his patience with me is running thin and I don't blame him. He expects me to be able to "just deal with it", but I can't. He doesn't understand how much it hurts me, no matter how dumb it sounds. It just makes me so angry, like why do we need so much of it?

Another thing that bothers me is that I have no idea where it stems from. I've never been abused or raped or anything like that, and I have no problems when it comes to sex in real life. I'm not 100% happy with how I look (far from it actually) but I don't get what that would have to do with it!

It's driving me mad, and it gets in the way of everyday life. I want to change it but I can't and I'm frightened I'm pushing my boyfriend away. Does anyone else have a problem like this or have any ideas on how to fix this? I could really use some help.

I'm sorry this is so long guys, thanks xx
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