The voice of reason, Perna!

The most important players in this scenario are THE CHILDREN. They deserve and need both their mother and their own father. In a separation/divorce, the children are the ones that get caught in the middle, no matter how friendly a separation it is. They tend to internalize the separation and feel that it is their fault. Your rejection of their father will be perceived as a rejection of them by their dad... or even you.

A marriage is a lifetime commitment. To love a person is an action, not just a feeling. Feelings are not facts.

The way it sounds to me is that this new man has turned your head. If you leave your husband, you won't be independent, you'll be dependent on this new man. IMO, that's not the proper growth you need.

You can regain some of your lost youth and still be within the safety of your present commitment.

Good luck, Des.