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Originally Posted by feralkittymom
I've never had a blank slate T, so I can't really know how I'd react. I understand the theory that supports it, and it makes sense to me. But I think for those of us whose difficulties center on attachment, relationship, or trauma, an absolute blank slate approach is probably too alienating to inspire a trusting alliance. The pure blank slate approach was designed predominantly to address neurosis. My T was circumspect about info he shared, and yet worked within a psychoanalytically influenced modality, so it doesn't have to be absolute.
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I agree that it's not necessarily absolute, fkm. I would not want a T who shared absolutely nothing. But my biggest problems are to do with relationships (both my marriage, and other social relationships), and despite this I would not want T to share anything about his family, if any, or his past relationship issues, if any. That would make me uncomfortable, and it would make me wonder if he thought less of me for not managing my problems as well as he did, and it definitely wouldn't make me feel more understood. T understands me, that's something I am convinced of, but since our relationships are necessarily different, using his own relationships as examples for me would just make me feel that he wanted me to be like him, or something.