I talked about this in chat a bit last night and thought I'd get other's opinion's also. I appreciate all the comments last night.

My dad has cancer. They think they got it all when they did his surgery last year but he's undergoing chemo just in case. He was doing so good not getting sick or anything. But lately when he goes in they have to give him a shot to raise his red blood cell count because he's anemic and they can't do his chemo if its' under a certain amount. Well this shot makes him very sick. They have gone from doing his chemo every 2 weeks to every 3 weeks because he suffers so much between times. Just as he gets his strength back he has to do it all over again. Anyway, I feel really bad for him and am having a hard time with him being sick. All my life (I'm 35) he's been the healthy one just a cold here and there and I've always been the sick one along with my mom. I got my low immune system from her. How do I deal with the changing roles in the family? He has 4 more treatments to go. He's doing one this week and I'm going out to their house tonight like I always do on Wednesday's but I find myself avoiding him when I'm out there. I get out there and go to sleep on mom's bed and wake up when she gets home and we talk and dad just sits in his chair. I don't know what to say to him. How do I tell him I'm very sad for him without making him sadder? I know he doesn't feel good and doesn't like being sick. 2 weeks ago he only worked about 15 hours instead of his normal 45 hours. I know its a hardship on them financially so I'm trying very hard not to have to ask them to help me out but I need him to help me fix my car but know that it will cut into their finances. I can't afford to fix it myself and luckily its starting to warm up so I don't need my heater anymore but what about next winter when it gets cold again? I am trying really hard not to be selfish but I want my old dad back.

Jbug