Okay, here comes my spiel.
I know the obvious answer is get out, but my question is how? I feel i have exhausted my resources.
Well I am dating a guy who is a paranoid schizophrenic, who is also bi-polar he told me the other day. But this is not the problem. I have more than come to accept his imperfections, but now he has become violent.
He has been controlling from the get go, why I didn't run at the first sign, I couldn't tell you. I have tried to help him through his tough times, but now he is at the point of needing help that I cannot provide. I am by no means a professional anything, except a listener. When you are dating someone who has paranoid delusions, then all of a sudden those delusions get focused around everything you are doing. Its bad! I can't scratch my nose, or move my hair out of my face without him thinking I am trying to signal to someone. When in all actuality, no one else can see me. We live in rural California where we are bout 10 minutes from town, and nearest neighbors are about 1/2 mile away.
Now on to the worst part. Yes it gets worse.
Since he is schizophrenic all of these things that he thinks he sees or hears or feels, are as real to him as anything. So when I try and get him to stop bothering me, because I get tired of having to move from where I am sitting so that he can "check". He freaks out and starts calling me a liar, then comes the violence, and the refusal to allow me get away from him. He thinks that the only reason I want to get away from him, is so that I can go be with some other guy. Why can't he understand that after I am already hurt and scared, that I just want to get away because I don't want to get hurt anymore.
He keeps asking me if I want him to leave and never come back, but I always just say I don't know. Every other time in the past when I have told him to get out of my life he has flipped out and hurt me, or threatened to kill me.
I just want out, I thought he was gonna leave me alone the other night. Then last night out of no where he shows up. And now my face is swollen, and discolored. I had to get up and do my early morning route, thank god he was sleeping. I haven't gone home now I am just sitting at the beach trying to figure out what to do. I just don't know what to do, I want him gone but the last time he was only in jail about a month and a half.
I take care of my elderly grandmother who lives on the same property as me just a different house. So I can't just up and leave. A restraining order doesn't do anything, what am I gonna do roll it up and hit him on the nose with it? the closest officers will take 20 minutes to get to where I am. I am at a loss of what to do now, I just want him to leave me alone, but he is convinced that he will find the guy that I am hiding on my property.
Someone please give me a suggestion. Law enforcement has done nothing but pick him up, and let him go after a month. What else can I do? Im just glad I don't work customer service anymore, because with how I look today I would not be able to go to work.
Any advice is good advice at this point please.
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