Thank you, marmaduke and Punkybrewster.. I do understand what the limits are and my role as her mom... I have been the only parent in her life for 15 years. At the age of 11 she was hospitalized with anorexia and issues and issues and issues going forward. She has come to me for every little thing from having a spider in her bathroom to her (still in the picture) ex abusive boyfriend's suicide attempt. I have always been there. The thing is, that I literally have no more ability to cope with her stuff.. so this is more about me, and how I can get though this without falling into depression or major anxiety. My support system is my 31 year old son, and we have both been at the mercy of her moods and bad decisions for so long. I just don't know how to watch her self-destruct yet again.