Do you know any questions to ask yourself concerning how effective your therapy is, how well you´re moving along or questions regarding how you can make it more effective?

I never know if I´m doing therapy "right", what "should" I talk about.

My t says not to prepare anything and just see what things show up.

However, I just simply do not agree that this is the most effective for me personally.

Sometimes for example I start talking about things that aren´t so important to me, because I´m nervous at the beginning of every session, just to say something.
And often she gets hung up on that and we end up talking about things, that may not be unimportant but the "real" issues, somehow, I feel are not adressed.

Or often I had it happen, that I wanted to tell her about my history from the past 4 years. Many many things have happened to me and I think it´s important for her to know and for me to talk about it. Simply, because I feel so cut off from my own history.
I feel like she doesn´t like to do that and often steers the conversation elsewhere.

I´m just unsure....