Hi Tristan, I reckon a some (?) motivational speakers do "hype it up" a bit. I mean some disappointment/despondency has got to be natural if you feel you've failed (unless you don't even fully realize you've failed- which isn't necessarily a good thing!!).
And I'd say some (?) of those people have really felt the pain you're going through occasionally even if they aren't making it "graphic".
But I guess it still comes down to how you handle failure. And some of it is to firstly allow yourself to have failed sometimes. No-one is perfect, no-one is not going to fail at times, everyone is really going to fail at times. Your failures don't have to define you. They can be part of you sometimes sure, but they aren't the whole you.
And you do often have to fail at things before you can succeed, all part of the learning process. Sorry, I'm not going to say it will turn you/anyone into "businessmen, inventors, artists and the like" but still.............
And I'd say that that's a real good quality you have there in recognizing that you could have done better at things, or maybe shouldn't have tried things which were going to fall apart on you??? So yes, keep that, but just maybe allow it to lead you down another path. Remember it's made you wiser!!
You might make the same mistakes again, anyone might, but it's given you some insight into being less likely to make those mistakes again or making them less times in your lifetime. And with a lot of failures, well if you've screwed up at least you've tried, right?
And you know, you're sounding pretty hard on yourself, so any chance that your failures aren't quite as big as you're thinking them to be??I'd understand if they were to you, but maybe to other people seeing those "failures".....?
If you want to talk a bit more though.....................a bit more detail about your experiences might help (??).................and rest assured I'm not a motivational speaker!!
Alison