Sophiesmom, I'm indifferent really. If the libido came back, great, if not, well, whatever.

I would not want him to go somewhere else. Regardless what the reason, it is still cheating to me and that would hurt. It's bad enough it hurts I can't enjoy it anymore, and it hurts even worse thinking he might go somewhere else. Marriage really isn't fair to womankind....I've realized that. We don't age gracefully as men do, and there is no forgiveness from men for how we look since they are visually stimulated. Then, when our plumbing doesn't work, we catch heck for that too in one way or the other. Add health problems on top of all that....

I'm not sure about the menopause thing... I might get tested for that... I wonder if an OTC supplement would help, like Estroven?