Hi guys, Great question it seems as everyone has a strong point of view- awesome!!

I personally was referring to what 'Healing4me' said, from the moral standpoint, of i gave my word. Now, I feel as was discussed my emotions were used against me for a long time (years) based on some dim-witted promise i made nearly ten years ago. One of which i would have honoured, had things not reached the point it has.

Now, i regret all of the wasted time i spent, continually trying to ensure i followed through on this promise. I wish i had never said it, because it continually messed with my head- and here i am today.

I appreciate everyones view though and ofcourse physical abuse is a big "hell no!!"
However, if i was manipulated into believing i owed someone something as i did. I can also understand how others would also misconstrue the situation in an abusive relationship and feel that they do continue to owe their abuser, that same sense of unconditional love.

There is also one more type, i still believe in and that is between (some-not all) parents and children. My mother and father have shown me unconditional love and always will; i believe. That is one blessing, that has taught me how to show it to others.