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Originally Posted by ashi101
Like I said before my boyfriend was talking to girls on Facebook well last night he sent a girl a picture of his **** I don't know what to do I'm so in love with him I don't want to leave I want him to stop all of this its hurting me so bad I cant sleep right I don't want to even touch him now after seeing that I don't know what I'm doing so wrong I do everything he wants to done in lost hurt angry I love him to much to let go I'm not strong enough for this at all I have no one who will understand and friends don't help all they say is leave him leave him I don't want to I feel like I'm not supporting him enough about himself so he talks to women someone please help me I need it.
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Okay, just please bear with me as I am trying hard to understand what has been going on in your life.
So you feel that you are not supporting you ENOUGH. I take it, that means that you are supporting him somewhat, but not enough, and therefore he only sent that lovely pic to one woman on Facebook. Had you not supported him at all, he would have sent the pic to each one of his 641 female contacts. Right? So you are hoping that if you manage to support him a bit more, then he would stop sending such pictures at all.
I think this might very well work, and as such is worth trying.
Your weekend assignment to support your bf is as follows:
1. Stop mentioning the incident and be your most playful self, but have some private time, too.
2. Here I will be out of my depth because I am, relatively speaking, an old Luddite, but even I know how Android tablets have built-in cameras with the option to take pictures of yourself. I am sure people who are younger and more tech savvy can provide details.
3. I am not suggesting that you take a shot of your crotch. No, that would be too banal and quid pro quo. No, take a picture of your best asset, or two. Naked or in lingerie or what have you. Spend some time getting it right. Make sure the face is not in the picture. If you can, apply photo-editing tools. You need to end up with three good pictures. The pictures need to be suggestive in a tasteful way (another argument against simple crotch shots).
4. Try to recall the names of at least three male friends of yours, but the more the merrier. I will call your friends Andrew, Bill, and Carlos.
5. The choice of the mode of communication is yours, so I will fast-forward to the goal of communication, which is to obtain your bf's feedback on those 3 or 3+ shots that you have selected, because you, being a supportive friend to all, do not want to spam Andrew, Bill, or Carlos with excessive messages. But you are lost and unable to choose the best picture, so could he please, pleeeeeez, pretty please help make that call.
At this juncture he would have some options.
1. Get it right away and try to find words for a sincere apology.
2. Get it right away and start selecting the best image, realizing that this is the price he is paying for learning an important lesson.
3. Not get it right away, but start looking at the pictures with interest (this one is very open-ended).
4. Get excited about the proposed task, and then you both can learn unexpected things about each other.
There are other potential ways, too. If he finds himself in (2), then all his subsequent wives, girlfriends etc. Will owe you royalties.
At any rate, I cannot think of any other way for you to give him much needed support.
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