Hmm, that seems odd to me. Maybe I've watched too many L&O SVU eps, but that isn't normal behaviour for tickling someone.

As for him listening to you and your boyfriend/s having sex, that can be interpreted two ways: as creepy behaviour, or as him "looking out" for you to make sure you were safe and weren't being forced into it.

Have you always felt panicky about these memories? If not, do you know what may have triggered you suddenly feeling panicky about them?