I just got in contact with a woman on Match.com and we began texting tonight. Overall, I think we have a lot in common, but I just can't escape the terrifying feeling that it won't work. What can I do to make sure it works,
You can't do anything to make it work.
I used to not think of it as a 'date' but imagine i was simply meeting a friend from work for a drink & chat, that way I didn't get too nervous.
And the just be yourself thing? dunno. If I was to go out and 'just be myself' I would pretty much sit in silence!
I have to make a effort to be sociable.

One bit of good advice, be a good listener.

I don't like facebook, its a narcissists dream, look at me, me, ME. See how very wonderful I am, I got hundreds of amazing friends. And all those selfies!
And most of it is bullcrap.