So I really was swindled then. I dated a narcissist and he took off shortly after i went broke. Right now he is dating a 60yo man, he is 30... and they live somewhere in south east asia.... I can't imagine he is actually aware that he is doing this to people because of his inability to see himself objectively. My therapist says he is half aware of what he is doing. How can someone be half aware? I have a policy now that I dont pay for people, if they want to hang out or date we each pay our own way. I won't even buy them coffee on a date, is this to much?