Do you both have sponsors? I know you're new to AA, regretful, but you can ask someone who seems worthy to sponsor you. Sponsors are so helpful in building the basic habit of going to meetings--& it gives you at least one acquaintance.
It's so hard to quit drinking, but these folks know how truly hard it is. If you can find a group that fits you & a decent sponsor, the whole process is a bit easier.
"Give yourself every advantage possible and the fewest excuses," was the advice my first sponsor gave me, and it did help.
Keeping you both in my thoughts and heart...
Roads