Ashi,

My heart goes out to you but I'm going to be very sobering and terse. I think that's what you need and it's what you're asking for.

First, you need to understand that there is nothing you did or can possibly do to make him send pictures of himself to other girls or contact girls on FB. Nothing.

NOTHING

Ok? NOTHING

It's not possible. You could spit in his face, deny him any sexual contact at all, tell him you hate him, and still his showing pictures of himself to other girls will be 100% his choice. So do yourself a favor and admit that reality. Let it set you free from the responsibility. Don't take control for what you cannot control. It's hard enough to take responsibility for what we are responsible for.

Now, having said that, let's focus on the issue you brought up...

I don't know the history and level of relationship you have with this guy so I will leave judgment on all of that aside. If you love him and want to help him, then there are two key points that I hope you'll respond to.

1. It sounds like your boyfriend is an addict, or well on his way there. This picture he sent that there is a whole world he is involved in or working his way into, and you have barely seen the tip of the iceberg. I highly recommend you look at these sites which will help you understand the power of the deceptive world created by combining the powers of sex and the internet.

www.yourbrainonporn.com
www.yourbrainrebalanced.com

Hopefully these won't get me blocked or deleted or whatever because they are purely educational/helpful, free, and are very relevant to depression caused by these addictions. I want you to see these because they show you that this is beyond your control and you are fighting against mother nature short-circuited by a technological industry that is overwhelmingly destroying peoples' lives all over the world.

From these, I hope you will see that you can't stop an addict who isn't 100% serious about changing himself and overcoming his own issues. He could love you with all his heart, but if he doesn't deal with this stuff he will continue to have this other twisted, second life--and he will suck you down with him and ruin yours.

2. If you do love him, then drawing a line in the sand and not letting him do this to your relationship is the best thing you can do for him. That would be the loving thing. Leaving someone you love because they are just destroying themselves and you is more loving than staying in it with them because you are afraid of the consequences.

So when you're friends say to "leave him," even though it is easy to just say )and some friends might not even have the best motives), some are telling you that because it is the best advice they can give and they care about you. It is possible to love someone and not support what they do. In fact, not supporting all the things they do can be the best way to love them.

We should probably all look at each other and ourselves more like doctors sometimes. ;-)