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Originally Posted by awesomeness05
I'm dealing with depression and often I feel like people think my problems don't matter, compared to theirs, or like mine don't matter regardless of whether they think so or not.
I feel like I'm not validated, even though people do validate me and that is no one's intention to make me feel that way. my friends have been through self-harm, anorexia, divorce, really big problems. Me? I've been through anxiety, depression, grief, and chronic pain.
I constantly feel like i have to apologize or make light of how I feel, for fear someone will get after me and say my problems aren't that big. I realize other people have bigger problems, but my problems matter too
I don't mean to be selfish; I feel kind of ashamed of these feelings, but sometimes I just need to be reminded that someone cares. and that's when I realized these feelings are probably stemming from my depression.
has anyone else felt this way?
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Thank you for posting this. Your problems are real. Just because they are YOUR'S doesn't make them insignificant. You really can't compare your life to anyone else's.
If some one was in pain and in front of you "ranting" about it, would you EVER tell them to stuff it?
Would or could you tell them that their pain means nothing?
I don't think you could.
Why would it be ok for some one to treat you that way or say that to you?
Anyone who would treat you that way does NOT deserve your time, effort or attention.
Just reading this has made me face some hard facts about myself and the unhealthy manner in which I deal.... or rather how I DON'T deal with my own issues.
I often try to minimize my issues or make light of them when I feel like they are eating away at my very soul... that I'm rotting from the inside out. I always view other people's problems as more relavent than my own. It's easier that way... or so I convince myself.
I guess I've made it into a habit. Trying to tell myself to, "buck up, some one else always has it harder in life than me." While that may be true, it doesn't change the fact that it's actually me trying to avoid my own pain. I can't hide from it. I can't run away from myself. And I can't force people to fix my problems for me.
While it is difficult not to get angry with myself, maybe it is time I get aggressive... or assertive. Either way, feeling small and insignificant is not going to diminish what I have to face. It only feeds into my guilt.
Maybe we both just need to say to ourselves...
I may not have chosen to exist, or to live the life I am leading now... I AM HERE, I have the RIGHT to be here, to take up space, to take in as much air as I need, and to be comfortable in my own skin!! I don't need permission or acceptance from ANYONE. Whatever God made me put me here for a purpose, and therefore, I do not need to make excuses or make justification for anyone.. even myself! It's my life, my pain, and my REALITY. Everyone else can either get on board with it or they can just suck my dust as I leave them behind!
...Okay, I have gone off on a ranting tangent... I'll stop now. I'm sorry for not focusing on you.
I guess I thought I needed the same pep-talk. Hope it helped you as much as it helped me.