I think emotions are inherently not logical? I don't think one can connect and be logical at the same time; connection requires vulnerability and unknowns and can't be "controlled" or figured out beforehand. I like WinterRose's touch-and-go philosophy but, as Mouse says, that's very hard to do.

I do do think one can connect with the past without getting overwhelmed though (just as one/our T can connect with another person without getting swamped by their emotions). I think that is what I learned a bit of in therapy; constructing a sense of Self that doesn't get overwhelmed as easily and/or that is "all right" when it does, can ride it through without guilt or shame.