Welcome to PC!

You sound very stressed over this situation. I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I know it seems like no matter which way you turn, there are going to be problems either monetarily or emotionally.

First off, I think I would try to get a conversation going about what each of you want and don't want in your relationship. It seems you need to get onto a level of communication that is lacking at the moment. Relationships take work from both partners...if only one is doing any of the work, then it will be difficult at best.

It must be hard being at a university and in a town that you both don't care for. But, it is your last semester and only a few more weeks to go until it's over. There is some light at the end of that tunnel for you both.

I hope that you can find the strength to do what is right for YOU. Even when we care about the other individual in the relationship, you still should be true to yourself. If your gut instinct is telling you that you shouldn't live together, then go with it. Things may be tough, and he may have to live with another roommate, or on his own, but he will survive. So many times we let our hearts rule our judgement, when in fact our gut tells us something different. I've learned in my life that my gut doesn't lie to me, but my heart will cloud the true meaning of things. I am not by any means saying you shouldn't be together or live together....just listen to what your gut is telling you.

I hope you can find some peace and be able to make some decisions that will benefit you. I wish all good things for you.

Hugssss
J