I think we only get one chance. Because if you like someone, there is always someone you like just a fraction of a bit more. Someone who is what you want. I lost the love of my life at Christmas this year. We had been together three years. I still cry and feel so sad it feels as if someone has kicked me in the stomach. I tried to replicate it with someone else but I didn't feel much for him. However, he is comforting to me, this second person and five years younger. I am 27, (he is 22) aaah! Getting comfort from little boys a bad idea? This 22 year old and me, we pretty much sit around in his grungy apartment, he smokes pot and we listen to music and ****. It's simple, it's easy. It might be mechanical on my part but it takes the pain away...