Keep having mini-crises, even though we're ideal soul-mates, the love of my life and I. We've lived together for 3 and half yrs (romantically and passionately connected some 2yrs before that), married for 7 mths, had known each other as gradually closer friends for 5 yrs before suddenly realizing we were in love.

Anyway, we have a deep, wide love and a strong, playful and spiritual friendship, respect and support for each other ... and of course we've 'weathered ups and downs' and dark times etc ...
But what drives me to actually post here again at long last, seeking help, is that when there's a 'disconnect' between us or I get trauma-triggered (mostly these happen in love-making )-; though it used to always be and sometimes still is perfect), he goes distant on me. Right when I'm vulnerable, needful of comforting and reassuring or just to reconnect our loving bond, he retreats behind his apparently injured state, so I feel abandoned and (try not to get) resentful.

I've made myself stay present and rise above the hurt, needy child; got clear and calm in expressing what's going on for me without attributing blame etc ... but what is there to do, where is there to go when he stays fractured and distant and says he's feeling too sensitive to try getting close again ?? How do I keep drawing on loving feelings to give to reassure him when I feel he's so neglecting my need for same?

Thank you if you bothered to read all this, and even more if you trouble to offer some helpful feedback, encouragement or support x

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