I'm so sorry that this has happened to you. Emotions are extremely powerful and volatile, to the point that when we are in pain many would wish they could feel nothing. And love can be amazing, but it can also hurt like crazy. I don't think anyone deserves to be emotionally neglected and the realisation that someone who loved and cared about you actually doesn't anymore must be one of the most heartbreaking things to feel.

Perhaps the reason we attract emotionally unavailable men is because we feel we do not deserve any better. The more neglected we are, the more we truly believe we are not worth to be shown love and affection. Maybe we are drawn to them because it would be so abnormal to be shown what we deserve.

The only thing I can suggest is to try to take time out completely from relationships and try to work on yourself. It's easier said than done; some of us just have inherent feelings of low self-esteem, but I believe to love yourself first would attract a loving and affectionate mate. And I guess with each experience we learn to look out for red flags and hopefully avoid making the same mistakes in the future - though of course be wary of those who put effort in initially, where their true colours eventually shine through.