Cookiez - I understand the feeling as I feel it too. I never feel like I'm good enough... and I just don't fit in with my family at all.

I've found physical distance to be the most beneficial thing. And I keep conversations with my family to superficial topics. It's taken a lot of effort on my part, but my parents no longer pry for information unless I'm physically there.

It took me a long time to accept that my family was who they are, and that they're never going to change.. no matter how much I wanted them too. So I had to make the changes that I could to find the best possibly compromise that wasn't going to put my own identity or self-worth at risk. I had to find out what I was and was not willing to put up with, and then to figure out how I was going to enforce those boundaries. Sometimes it still doesn't work, but at least I know I've tried to protect myself and still be an "ok" daughter.