My honey has been pressuring me about coming to visit him, even though my car has been in the shop for three weeks. I had to take a test in his city, so I rented a car and switched a shift so that we could have time to hang out the following day.

We had plans for Saturday at noon for the whole time before he went to work at 9 pm. Then, his brother called and said that he was coming into town. He sees his brothers every week when he comes and visits me. Also, they are going on a four day trip today. So, I don't understand why he had to incorporate his brother into our plans. Also, I like to be warned before I meet family.

He said that they were just stopping by and then we'd all go to a market. I told my friend to go there and that I could meet her there. However, we all had to stay at his house for 4 HOURS. I missed seeing my friend. My honey should have told me that it would take a while and that I should go do whatever I want. Plus, few people at the house talked to me and my honey told me that the child there "takes president over me".

I feel like no one had any consideration for my feelings or time. I feel like I was just at the whim of everyone else and that that was expected of me. I talked to my honey about my feelings and he doesn't think he did anything wrong. He kept saying things about "when people have kids ..." which implied that their time is more valuable than mine. It's so unfair! Also, I think it's false. My cousins or friends with kids don't act like that.

I am so sick of being pushed into a corner by children. I get this a lot from my new grandparent stepmom and my mom who nannies. Also, none of my step siblings congratulated me on graduating or getting a job, even though I congratulated them on their pregnancies.

It hurts more because I am moving to China in two months. Shouldn't he value time with me more? We barely got to hang out. Also, my only biological sibling died, so it's hard to be pushed into a corner because of other people's siblings.

Am I a jerk for thinking that it's not my place to be at the whim of everyone else? I'm a person too