Don't let your virginity push you into things. I'm around your age and still a virgin. It's not that big of a deal. Let things happen the way they happen. I can understand the need to not be so different or what we perceive as different, but there are more people out there than you think that are not sexually active. And no, I don't think you'd surprise a psychiatrist or therapist with that.

I think you should check out your county's mental health services, and if things get worse, please call a hotline.