hahaha, that's exactly how I was.

Have you considered birth control? BC will often lighten or stop your periods entirely. I am on the Mirena and after bleeding 2-3 months I no longer have periods and it's the most amazing feeling.

I would say buy ugly underwear and use it just for when you have your period, because you're right, even when wearing pads it can still get on your underwear. Your jeans will wash it right out, but your underwear will stain. But honestly, it's no big deal.