Hey Marmaduke. Sounds like you are coming to terms and finding out what is real! Kinda scarey isn't it? I do not know your mother but you very well could be right about her trying to control your life. Maybe having friends while at the same time keeping her separate could be helpful. If your mom is really important make sure she knows and feels that. You may be able to recognize sometime soon what her motives are. I still think keeping the relationships separate for a while may help you sort things through and also help you decide how to handle this in the future. Good Luck!