Thanks healingme4me. By distancing himself I mean being cut-off emotionally, unavailable relationally, even removing himself either behind a book or out of the flat. By "not coming for me" I guess I mean more not reaching for me ... you know, to pull me into a tender and strong embrace or wooing me with loving or taking us to nice place and making it romantic together ...

But also, yes, often not verbally expressive when I really need such; though he has been in the past and can be about other things. And it often leads me to feel that he must not feel the things for me that he used to and that I need.

I'm not totally without hope, but where I was often frustrated and/or temporarily heartbroken, I progressed through being depressed and desperate to now often being flat, despondent, trying not to remain spiralling between resentful and resigned.