Dear River,I do somewhat relate to your situation :distancing,lack of communication ,lack of touch and desire to be held/embraced ,not pushed away.I am not sure of your husbands motives : perhaps ,being a male ,he wants to fix things and gets frustrated by your self consciousness and inability to help you,which in turn makes him feel incompetent and shuts his romantic tendencies down.This is just a thought , because you've mentioned ,that in the past you were emotionally close.All the best to River and hope you'll find your happiness soon again