Are you taking any meds. I have that issue. I didn't before meds. Anti depressants can cause those kind of issues.

Do you get off with masturbation and not with someone present. That is what I gather from this last post of yours. but I could be mistaken. Again that is how I am. When I do it it is a sure bet, if it involves someone else, it almost takes being intoxicated to make it happen. That is just me.