yes i think he is probably thwarting your move to china, as he probably doesn't want to lose you, or just is scared you'll meet someone else and is giving you space to leave because he can't deal with it. it is a big change for you and him. you are not a jerk just wondering about your future together, he probably doesn't want to get hurt so is giving you your space to decide. people do have their kids to worry about but he should have told you before you left to see him that they would be a part of the visit.