I'm not sure what type of replies you're seeking, so not sure where my focus should be...

Its clear your current relationship is dead, or you wouldn't be sneaking around with your friend, your reason for staying has been duelly noted.

Its also obvious that neither of you want to end things, even though you're temporarily stuck.

The way I see it the folowing are the most basic options:

1.Break up with baby daddy and cohabitate as roomates until you move.

2.Explain to new love interest why you're stuck and discuss the way forward, maybe he has a solution that suites you both.

3.Put Mr Loverboy on ice until you can move out independently.

Do not fear, I'm not going to go into a whole moral lecture, and no judgement here when I say this:

Its not a good idea to keep sneaking around, because when and if you and Mr Loverboy do become an official pair, the relationship's foundation would have been built on deceit, which does not bode well for any kind of future between you. He will have no reason to trust that you won't sneak around behind his back, and you may develop the same reservations about him.

So while there's no such thing as a do-over, its best for both of you if you decide to stop sneaking around, how you do that is up to you guys.



If all you wanted was support and some cyber hugs, I'm sorry I dropped the ball and shot off my mouth. I know what its like to feel stuck with someone, although my situation was very different. My exbf was abusive, so fear and ignorance had me feeling stuck, not circumstance.

I hope you find what you seek and that everything works out for you

Take care!