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Originally Posted by hvert
I have no solution, but can relate. Something similar has happened in my relationship. Due to my being triggered in the past, he will no longer initiate. I have to initiate - but always having to be the one to reach out makes me feel crappy.
Now feels like we are in a stand off of sorts, both of us waiting for the other one to make the first move.
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SOOO feeling for you, hvert.
It so sucks that we can never 'win a standoff' ! I mean, I've felt before that I'm done with telling him, done with pushing things til he gets p***ed off then I'm the one to make up, so I'll just stay cool and distant and wait til he finally wants and reaches for me. But nah, he just leaves me to it or gets even more distant in return.
Don't you wish you could just sometimes be just a little pursued, or made an effort for?? Does it get hard, for you, to feel love-satisfied?
But in the long, and even shorter term - or maybe I mean in the 'bigger picture', it seems best and realistic to accept what our man is, his pleasing and disappointing traits, and just make it a priority and a satisfaction in itself to keep the love alive however. Well, that's kind of where I've got to ...
Hope your situation resolves satisfactorily.