First off i am new here and will be hanging out reading and learning and hopefully contributing a little. I am guessing i am not alone in feeling that depression seems to be transparent to other people we are engaged with. It may not be the case, but have you ever felt that your depression was having a real time negative affect with someone your having a conversation with? Like your current state of depression was becoming evident as you spoke with them?

Sometimes, i often think that saying "you know what f*%k it, tell people your struggling with depression". Has anyone tried this and had positive results in their lives?

Personally, one of the biggest causes/affects of my depression is my lack of success with women and dating. I am a 31 y/o old male whose good looking, built and i have a full head of hair and yet i do not have a girlfriend. I can't help but wonder if people think I'm gay due to my lack of success in this dept. of my life. I do not act/look/dress gay at all but the possibility of people thinking this about me seeps into my psyche and causes, yes you guessed it, more depression and negative self thoughts. So the idea of being honest about my depression with girls I'm interested seems like an idea worth trying perhaps. I know people wonder what my deal is and my unwillingness to tell people about my depression might be a factor not helping the situation.

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