Two summers ago, I dated a guy who was moving to China. I can understand why his parents wanted to see him more, but it was excessive. They would come into town all the time last minute and so my ex would just cancel our plans. I was at the whim of his parents. My ex and I got into trouble having sex outside and so we had court stuff. His parents would come to court even though he told them a million times that it made me uncomfortable. They said, "If she's comfortable having sex outside, then she should be comfortable with us there." They would do things like invite me out to lunch with them and then run errands with me there so I was stuck with them. I felt disrespected and not important. This ex sympathized slightly though. I ended up breaking up wit him days before he left because I was so sick of his parents butting in.

Now, I am moving to China. I've been seeing a guy 6 years older than me who lives an hour away. He comes in to see me every week and also visits his brothers who live here too, which I have no problem with. However, he made me angry last week when he was late taking me to work because he got "caught up" with his brother. This week, I exchanged a shift and drove a rental car up to spend Saturday with him (I had to take the GRE there the day before). He had all of these plans for us and told me to come over at noon and then we'd go after he got caffeinated. I get there and then he told me that his brother was unexpectedly in town so there were stopping by and then we'd all go to a market. He said that it wouldn't be for long and so I told him that I'd have one of my friends meet us there. We were at the house for 4 HOUrS and he knew that I was irritated because I told him. Our 9 hour day turned into a 4 hour day and the museum that he was going to take me to was closed. He doesn't think that I have any right to be upset and that people with kids (his brother has a toddler) spend more time "stopping by" nd that I jus have to accept that. I feel like he has no consideration for my time and thinks that it is my job to just follow him as he does whatever he wants. He accused me of trying to make things too serious.

What really gets me is that the following day, his brothers and him went on a 4 day trip. How often does someone need to see their freaking family?!

I'm starting to feel that this is hopeless and that he is just too self-absorbed and can't cut his umbilical cord. I'm reluctant to break it off because I'm sick of being single ALL OF The TIME and I'm going to be very lonely in China for the first few months. i don't want to be a doormat though. Should I just break it off and deal with being lonely, depressed, and bored? It was awful feeling that way before My friends and I don't like the same stuff anymore.

Why does this keep happening? >_<