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Originally Posted by adampeps
Hi all,
I am a very quiet person in my early 30's who has a dependable job, a wife and an almost 1-year old baby. I love being a father and feel like I am a good husband. I've been struggling quite a bit lately knowing that the only acquaintances I have are my family. Outside of a few neighbors that we have, I don't really socialize with anyone else. If you look up my post history, you'll notice I do suffer from depression/anxiety as well.
I mentioned earlier that I have a dependable job. While this is true it is in consulting. I recently have felt terrible as the company I was working with could no longer retain me. I was with them since I started with the consulting company (2 1/4 years). Although I didn't enjoy all of the work, I liked the people and felt my life and having these work acquaintances was enough for me. Now that I have lost that, I feel sort of at a loss.
I know I will be put on a new project but this one seemed to be the best fit for my personality which has always been a struggle. I came out of my shell a bit and became a key player.
I have talked with a few people in my family and they say the following: - You'll meet lots of new friends as your daughter gets older
- They don't have many friends themselves as they've gotten older
- Be happy to have a wife and daughter
I guess for people who are in their 30s, I am just wondering if it is normal that I don't really have a social life. That I should be happy with just the time with my wife and child? Making new friends is an incredibly hard thing for me to do.
Thank you for listening.
Adam
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good for you for putting yourself out there with this. I wish I had addressed this issue earlier than the age I'm at now (49) I think that friendships are important at every age for everyone. forget about what is "normal". spouses may come and go. (sorry, I'm a bit jaded)

someone I once knew had a t-shirt that had on it "friends are the family we choose". I don't think he intended it to be insulting to his family lol. I myself did not take the time to cultivate and maintain friendships for most of my life, and I wish that I did, I learned this late in life. so I lack some life experiences and therefore life enjoyment perhaps compared to others, didn't have an ear or shoulder when I needed one and perhaps am a bit of a loner and can be awkward socially, at times. I agree it is hard to do, but it is worthwhile. It is something I need to do as well, better late than never.