Wow I'm so sorry I think that's often a problem with parents because they believe they know what's best for their kids and that isn't true quite a lot of the time. I know my mom wants me to come home but I just blatantly refuse because I told her this is really something I need to do for myself. If she regulates my sleeping schedule, eating schedule, helps me with getting a job and makes sure I'm safe I will never learn to stand back up on my own. And after explaining that quite a few times she got the message. She still wants to protect me and wants me at home but she also feels guilty at not preparing me better for how harsh the world can be so she's let me go. I know how callous parents can be when their mad. My mother says a lot of terrible things to me when she's angry and yelling and it leaves huge wounds in my heart and a lot of them haven't really healed either but I try my best to overlook it because I know she's trying her best to keep me safe (even though she's not doing it right lol). It's difficult to accept comments like that and I'm not saying you should because you definitely should tell her how what she said really made you feel and how hurt you are for her to say things like that. I find that an open thought policy is best with my mom so I make sure to tell her when she's overstepping her bounds and she's gotten much better and stepping back.

I hope things get better! And feel free to PM me if you want to discuss techniques in dealing with mothers lol