You haven't really answered my questions all that well... could you please try to answer them more fully.. and in a list so that you can include everything in a clear manner?

Absolutely all I know about your difficulties is that you have trouble thinking clearly. That's it. If you have a diagnosis and recieve disability cheques, then there is bound to be more that is causing you difficulty, isn't there?

I do not see why you need to deal with a credit union if you are setting up a chequings/savings account with a bank. You set up an account with a bank, you give them your money, and you withdraw your money. If you recieve disability cheques, then you should be able to deposit them directly in to the bank. If your dad is set up as the payee or something like that, then your fiancee can do nothing about it as she is not your dad. You will need your dad to work with you to sort out whatever the problem actually is. It sounds like it would be easiest for you to have one account, with ONE bank/institution.

Perhaps you should write a list for your fiancee. You can take your time working on it, so that you can eventually include everything. Don't write down things like "I can't think clearly". Write things like "I need help keeping track of my money." "I need help remembering appointment times." etc etc.

You can also do things such as keeping notes somewhere obvious - like a calendar on the fridge where you put down the things that need done - places you need to go. You could make a schedule for any chores that you could see like "Monday: clean bathroom. Tuesday: vacuum. Wednesday: do laundry".

Your fiancee isn't a personal support worker though Bronco. You can't expect her to remember and do everything that you have difficulty with. You could ask her to sit with you and to try and work out the things that you need help with and solutions to help you remember and do them more independently. If you always expect her to know and anticipate your needs, she's going to become frustrated and resentful - she has needs too, and she most likely isn't willing to be completely responsible for two adults.