Yes, I miss being pursued! I sometimes think that if I put in enough consistent effort at pursuing him over a period of time, say a few months, he would go back to the way he was. Too bad I can't sustain that kind of effort.

You are right, though -- it's more realistic to accept our partners for who they are. I still hate always having to be the one who ends these stand offs, but he won't so what am I supposed to do?

I am glad you are in a better place about your relationship!