You think he ruined the past 3 years of your life. The good news is: he doesn't have to ruin the rest of it.....You cannot forget what he did, but you CAN work at understanding what happened and stop blaming yourself. You can decide what you want your life to be like and not let him control the rest of it (I was molested at age 11 and that was 50 years ago); you never forget it, but you are the one who decides who you will be and what you want to do. xoxoxox, Nicole