I can sense your caring, concern and frustration. you are in a very difficult situation. medication would make things much easier if he were willing to try it. just because he has had bad experiences with some medications, doesn't mean it will be that way with them all. it took me 2 1/2 years of bad experiences, of call your dr immediately side effects, but I finally found meds that worked without side effects. you just have to be patient and willing to try. life is so much better now and I am living a normal cycle free life. I wanted it bad enough. I was tired of being sick and depressed. hopefully he will change his mind. take care.