Hey, just a quick reply.

My wife and I decided to go ahead with our divorce yesterday, amicably. She's seeing someone else and I thought i'd be pretty broken up about it.

Guess what? I'm super excited. You know why? Every ending is a new beginning.

You are attached to him because you are used to him. You love the idea of him. A husband, a father. It's not worth putting yourself through all this misery for an idea, you are obviously at odds with him as a person, it can be confusing. At first I was pretty upset about my separation, but I realized the same: I was in love with the idea of her, a best friend that is always there and never leaving me to be alone, someone that I could always count on to be there. We will be friends, which we've always been great at, and i'm completely fine with that, but it's not for everyone and really depends on how your situation was with your spouse. It is time for you to be YOU, and it is hard finding that identity I think, but you will.

As far as your son is concerned I HIGHLY recommend his father being a part of his life, whether or not you can stand the guy or not. I've seen personally what happens when the father completely disappears time and time again and it is not pretty. Women can disagree with me on here if you want, I get it, i'm just letting you know from a male perspective that it's not worth putting your son through that. Make your conversations brief and businesslike, whatever you need to do, but for the sake of your son make visitation work.

Best of luck and be strong.