Dear 30ish,

Congratulations on how far you have come and all the work you have put in for yourself and your family. You know your mum would be shocked by what you said but I agree you needed to tell her everything that was affecting and upsetting you. Your mum loves you and in time she will look again at the part she played in the way you are feeling. She will slowly accept that in her own time and you should not blame yourself for how she is now feeling.

What you wrote in the blog has hit a nerve with her and she is not yet able to vocalise her feelings as well as you are able to. Kudos to you, hidden childhood emotions are hard to deal with as an adult, the emotions take you back to your childhood self and they hurt, really hurt. Maybe before you blog an issue that concerns her, you should tell her about it face to face, or phone her. Then you can blog after that.

I wish you the best on the rest of your journey to your real, authentic self, and happiness. x