Yes, i still do worry about it from time to time but not very often now because i think my sense of self has gotten stronger from working with former T for 3 years.

It's understandable to worry about dependence. I really don't associate out of session contact with dependency. In my view, a "healthy attachment" is two people who are separate from one another but intimately connected. An unhealthy attachment would be when two people are enmeshed. The therapeutic process can facilitate a healthy attachment that will grow into a mature relationship. To get there, you work through the fears, doubts, and anxieties you speak of until you are able to experience the relationship with the full presence as your authentic self.

I don't think people can be truly intimate with others while keeping people at arms length. It sounds like your relationship is blossoming.

This is going to be a good therapy.