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Originally Posted by I.Am.The.End.
But if you wait too long (or at least if I wait too long) as a friend, they end up with someone else (if they weren't already with someone in the first place).
And it's also kind of disturbing that people are more honest with someone other than the person they are romantically involved with. Are they only involved with that person for the sex then, because I don't see any other reason under those circumstances. And besides if the person you're romantically involved with isn't also your confidante, then what's the point? I guess I don't have interest in a romantic relationship after all then?
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That's just it though, once you're a"friend & a confidante", and you Do fall in love, then you're in love with you're best friend! The best of both worlds. And if they get with someone else, observe how he behaves in That relationship. Like.....does he lie to that person to spend time with You because they would get jealous of you? If so, he's probably a cheat. Or, is he Honest & he lets the other person KNOW your his friend & the two of you hang out? You May just find out by watching his relationship with someone else that he wasn't what you wanted to begin with. And if he Is, sometimes fate will play its hand and bring the two of you together. It took me TEN YEARS of being good friends before me & my bf got together as more! And even though I still have trust issues from other past painful relationships, it's more comforting to know that my lover is my best friend rather than starting out trying to get to know someone in the "boyfriend/girlfriend"status, wondering if it's going to be " here today ,gone tomorrow" because there was no foundation of friendship to build on.