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Originally Posted by s4ndm4n2006
For you, again, you take care of you and be independent so that no matter what he does do, you will be ok. If he makes amends and does the right thing, and you stay with him and make it through, being on your own feet, independent is still better than leaning on him and depending on him too much for your own self worth. if it doesn't work out and he messes up again or doesn't do anything to fix things, you're still better off because you're depending on yourself for your self sufficiency, worth, etc..
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That was really well said. It is exactly what I did when I was being cheated on. I was not ready to leave that relationship for a whole bunch of reasons, but in the meanwhile I bolstered myself and made myself stronger every way I could. Slowly I realized how resilient I really was, and my self-esteem grew and grew.
At the end of the day, that relationship did not last. My ex-husband simply couldn't (or wouldn't) do the work that needed to be done to rebuild trust. But by the time the relationship actually ended I was well on the road to strength and recovery.